Editor’s Note:We’re doing something a bit unique for CFYC this month. Normally we’re all about women encouraging women, but this month, we decided to shake things up a little. We’ve invited some godly brothers in the faith to give us their two cents. What would these men say to a captive audience of their sisters in Christ if they had the opportunity? What do they think we need to know? Join us this month as we bring you lessons from men of God just for women.
I’ve been thinking for weeks about this article and what I would say. I found it a lot easier thinking about all the things I would NOT say to a captive audience of Christian sisters! This has been an intimidating task, to say the least, until I went back to Proverbs 31 and I realized that everything a Christian woman needs to hear (from my perspective) is rooted in the principles within the “Virtuous Woman” section of Proverbs. Therefore, here is what I would say to a captive group of Christian women:
Consider your WORTH!
“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10). Never forget you are worth more than the finest jewels! Please value yourself! You are not “just” a mom. You are not “just” a wife. And you are not “just” a woman! You’re God’s woman! You have abilities and power that we (men) will never possess! Your God-given nurture, emotions, touch, words, and spirit are unique and wonderful. Use them to God’s glory!
Bless your HUSBAND!
“The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life”
(Proverbs 31:11-12). Wake up every day and commit to him. Be his encouragement and strength when he is weak. Lift him up. Live within the salary that he makes. Be proud of him. Serve him and respect him. And remember that transformation is not your job! Let God be in charge of changing and transforming him into the man he needs to be! Your job is to bless him, submit to his leadership, and pray for him fervently!
Serve your HOME!
“She is like the merchant ships, she brings her food from afar. She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household…” (Proverbs 31:13-24). Titus was instructed to admonish the older women to train the younger women to bless and serve their homes! (Titus 2:4-5). There is NO more honorable calling and work than that of a woman who serves her husband and children! We need you to help us (fathers) train our children to be godly and to show them what it means for a woman to “seek first His Kingdom!” (Matthew 6:33). The world will try to convince you that there is liberty in getting out there and doing “your own thing.” Please don’t fall for it!
“She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy” (Proverbs 31:20). Serving others outside the home blesses EVERYONE! Serving blesses you because it keeps the selfishness, self-pity, and ingratitude out of your heart. It blesses your children because they get to experience what it is to “get their hands dirty” while creating compassionate hearts. It blesses your husband to be soft-hearted and aware of the needs of others. It blesses the church of Christ when your family is a model of discipleship and true religion (James 1:27).
Pursue GODLY CHARACTER!
“Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness” (Proverbs 31:25-27). A Christian woman deliberately sets herself apart from worldly women! She does not read about or view inappropriate relationships in novels, shows or books. Dishonoring shows like The Bachelor, Dancing with the Stars, The New Normal or any other shows with lying, cheating and immoral sexual content are not a part of her daily walk with God! (If you wouldn’t think of living it, please don’t digest it!) She thinks daily about how she can make her heavenly Father proud with what she reads, watches, says, and how she dresses.
“Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many daughters have done well, but you excel them
all.’ Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates” (Proverbs 31:28-31). A woman of God stays focused on the weightier matters of life! She strives to look upward to her heavenly calling in all matters. She does not get caught up in the holiness of beauty but in the beauty of holiness! She is a palm tree because her focus in on the beauty of righteousness that comes from within (Psalm 92:12-15)!
“A woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised!” Proverbs 31:30
By Steve Minor
Steven D. Minor has been married to Stephani Minor for 16 years and they are blessed with three children named Micah, Mason & Makenna. Steve preaches for the Kingfisher church if Christ and does family seminars around the country.